Catching Up...or something
Oct. 9th, 2024 09:56 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
catherineldfSo the big update is that I "won" the Hospice War. After a couple of weeks of her sleeping almost nonstop and being generally unresponsive to most things, I signed the paperwork and my partner of 28 years, wife for 15 of those, has been moved into hospice care. She's asleep most of the time, as far as I can tell, both from my visits and talking to staff. Hospice got her a new, fancier wheelchair today, one big enough to sleep in, and on Friday, I'm going back with one of my friends to take apart her bed so they can put in a hospital bed and a lift. There's a DNR and she's in the "just keep comfortable" category. This is a...lot. No idea how long this will be, but I hope it's quick for her sake. I think she's just done.
Other things that could be going better right now: Queen of Swords Press did not win an Innovative Voices Award. Or the small business grant I applied for. Worse, I found out a friend of mine died in July and I didn't see it until last week. Harriet Culver was an awesome human, a friend of both my mother's and mine, and I shall miss her. If you went to WisCon, 4th Street or other bookish cons before 2020, you probably met her. Wicked smart, good sense of humor, lovely human. Sigh.
On a brighter note, Queen of Swords Press authors in North Carolina were not clobbered by Hurricane Helene and my friends in Asheville have either safely evacuated or are doing reasonably well with support from their communities. Best wishes sent to everyone in Milton's path too.
More bright spots:
Other things that could be going better right now: Queen of Swords Press did not win an Innovative Voices Award. Or the small business grant I applied for. Worse, I found out a friend of mine died in July and I didn't see it until last week. Harriet Culver was an awesome human, a friend of both my mother's and mine, and I shall miss her. If you went to WisCon, 4th Street or other bookish cons before 2020, you probably met her. Wicked smart, good sense of humor, lovely human. Sigh.
On a brighter note, Queen of Swords Press authors in North Carolina were not clobbered by Hurricane Helene and my friends in Asheville have either safely evacuated or are doing reasonably well with support from their communities. Best wishes sent to everyone in Milton's path too.
More bright spots:
- Point of Dreams (Astreiant #3) by Melissa Scott and Lisa A. Barnett is out everywhere tomorrow (10/10)!
- The audiobook of my novel Silver Moon is on sale for the next couple of weeks. The narrator is really good! I've been listening to it on CD to ground myself in the third book, Blue Moon, and recently realized that I started in the wrong place and the wrong character for the book I should be writing. this will be good in the long run and I'm listening to the audiobooks while I drive back and forth to check on Jana and thinking about them a lot.
- I have made tiny bits of progress on my Joanna Russ essay and plan to dig in this weekend.
- I bought myself a new bed with a spiffy new mattress for back pain and a frame that raises and lowers. I love it and I hurt less.
- I decided that I was not going to live with dining room chairs that are gradually disintegrating (Jana was keeping them glued together when she was doing better) and a table that was too big for the dining room. I gave the latter to a nice neighbor for his mom last night and am shedding the chairs in time for the new dining room set to arrive next week.
- I have found a massage therapist who I like and am starting to see regularly.
- I am working on spending more time with friends, asking for help and resting when I can. I'm even reading a self-help book on grieving and liking it so far - Grief is a Sneaky Bitchy by Lisa Keefauver.
- The squirrels have randomly planted cherry tomatoes all over the yard and thanks to freakish hot dry spell we're having, I'm getting really good cherry tomatoes every other day. Which is fundamentally wrong for October in this climate, but tasty.
- I am "touching grass" as much as possible and doing what good I can in the world at the moment.
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