An early morning thought on being not-quite-famous

[catherineldf]

Sometimes people don't like me not because they have an imaginary construct of not-quite-famous me in their heads but because I'm being an asshole. And sometimes that is the right thing to be but I'd start by attributing their reaction to my behavior first before switching over to whole alternate universes/holodeck versions of me. Clearly, just not famous enough.

Comments

[lydamorehouse]

Yeah, I read Bear too, and I was trying to figure out how to say this exact thing. :-)

[mmerriam.livejournal.com]

That makes three of us...

[catherineldf.livejournal.com]

I don't know her personally but we have mutual friends and I'm sure she has many sterling and wonderful qualities. That said, it would be a really good thing if she backed away from the keyboard before posting and considered what some things sound like when heard, I dunno, outside one's own head.

[mmerriam.livejournal.com]

I've known her for a long time, both online and in real life, and yeah, she's friendly, big-hearted, and willing to help serious newbie writers, but that post. oh that post...

[catherineldf.livejournal.com]

I keep rooting for her to learn from prior experience. So far, the take away seems to be that "people are mean to me for no explicable reason but it can't be anything I'm doing or saying." Not saying that those don't happen, but frankly, in a genre like sf/f, filled as it is with the enthusiastic wholesale adoration of any large press published pro (and even some of the smaller fry), it doesn't happen that much. After a certain point, the seeds of self-analysis should begin to sprout.