catherineldf | A brief PSA about social media and being "nice" (Reply)

A PSA for the good of the order, directed at those of you who've been socialized to avoid conflict to one degree or another and regularly use social media: there is no rule that says that you have to put up with crap. You are not an evil human being if you unfriend, block, mute, filter, unfollow, etc. people who value their own feelings infinitely more than yours and feel obliged to insist that you do the same. This is true about political fandoms, sfnal fandoms, gaming, comics, tech, insert your subculture here. Placating them will not help: they will just demand more. Trust your instincts to distinguish between someone who respects your boundaries, but wants to have a discussion, vs. someone who wants to make you feel like shit so they can feel "right." The latter are not your friends or people you need in any portion of your life (even the relatives. Especially the relatives.).

End of lecture. Hang in there, folks (directed at those of you getting a lot of garbage lately).